Personal pronouns, gender, equality, etc.

burkey biology is sex, not gender.

That's only the modern (woke?) redefinition. Long-standing usage says otherwise.

Anyway ... the use of they/them/their when referring to a singular antecedent is entirely wrong ... regardless of your notions of sex/gender. But we don't have genderless first-person singular pronouns ... except for it/its, which are reserved for inanimate objects, not people. We even use gendered pronouns for dogs.

So do not suggest that I use it/its/they/them/their when referring to any person.

They/them has been used for centuries to refer to a single person without specifying their gender. I've always used it, and always heard it used.

Same with singular "you". Entirely wrong of course: It should be "thou".

Johnstaf They/them has been used for centuries to refer to a single person without specifying their gender. I've always used it, and always heard it used.

I'm the last person on this forum to discuss the English language 🤣 But I think there are some nuances here. I believe it may have been used in the past for being polite (or when you don't know the actual sex of a person because you exchange emails. For instance, since I work for a big corporation with many offices, it's hard for me to determine the sex of a person from only his/her name and we've even made some funny mistakes in Bulgaria because in our language the feminine and "third" gender of words, sorry I don't know the grammar terms, always end with a proper suffix which determines the gender and thus one can unconsciously decide that a name is of a female.)

And in the last 10 years or so the accent of "they" is not because you don't know the sex of the other person, but rather to allow for "them" to assume a sex that is different than the apparent one. Or in other words it includes the possibility of the other person being transgender. At least that's how I understand it.

xooorx Thou is familiar. You has always been the polite form. Like du and Sie in German, tu/vous in French or tu/usted in Spanish etc.

CyberGene Of course. I agree. I was just responding to the assertion that referring to an individual as "they" is grammatically wrong or new. The political and grammatical issues are separate.

Yes, "they" has been misused for a long time as a singular. But it is misleading. Just as are other forms of misuse.

I find it discouraging that incorrect usage abounds, even among professional writers. But that does not make it correct.

Note, though, that some believe that language is and should be the way people use it. I think this evolves to make language less meaningful. Speech is already ambiguous enough. I don't like incorrect usage. We all make mistakes. But let's not defend them.

MacMacMac

Tim went to the market.

= They went to the market.

It wasn't a good day for Tim.

= It wasn't a good day for them.

There's no necessity to use He and Him in those two sentences. English is magical 🙂

That said, there are some extremist woke happenings that I find completely absurd - like the UK outlawing 'breast feeding': now it's called 'chest feeding'!

burkey Tim went to the market.

= They went to the market.

It wasn't a good day for Tim.

= It wasn't a good day for them.

At school I learned that:

Tim => He went to the market.
Tim and Tom => They went to the market.

Now are you saying you can use "they" in both the sentences? Sorry, I'm not English, so that's very confusing...

magicpiano

Read a few English books - it's not at all confusing, e.g:

'Where did Tim abscond to?'

'They went and hid in the dunny!'

(Dunny is Australian slang for toilet / lavatory)

burkey

You'll find a plenty of English books, where it's not the case. Especially classics. I think they instead of he/she is quite a new phenomenon. At least common usage of it. There is an interesting article on Times from 2019 on this subject.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/time.com/5748649/word-of-year-they-merriam-webster/%3famp=true

So, rather than:

• Call that person. Tell him/her he/she is late.

I should write:

• Call that person. Tell them they are late.

?

It sounds to me like writing of the time of Shakespeare...

P.S.: but I understand it's more convenient when you don't know the sex of the person or you don't want to disclose it…

In English, when gender is immaterial the first-person singular pronouns are he/him/his.
If you prefer he/she, him/her, and his/hers, that's fine.

But one person ought not be referred to as they.
Many people do so, but THEY are wrong.
MacMacMac doesn't use the incorrect construction, and HE is right.
Mary does it properly, so SHE is right.
Do you know someone who uses the proper words? If so, HE is right.
Or HE/SHE is right. That's wordy perhaps. But it's correct.
It's all quite simple. But I guess the hypersensitive cannot stomach it. 🙂

Notice, though, that many European languages assign a gender to EVERY noun. And some (most?) require an article in front of every noun, so the article is likewise gendered. So why don't we hear about gender sensitivity from France, Spain, Italy? Perhaps it's because they know how to speak and write properly in their own language.

MacMacMac Notice, though, that many European languages assign a gender to EVERY noun. And some (most?) require an article in front of every noun, so the article is likewise gendered. So why don't we hear about gender sensitivity from France, Spain, Italy? Perhaps it's because they know how to speak and write properly in their own language.

I'm native Italian and familiar with few European languages. Currently I'm living in France and beforehand in few other European countries.

Your explanation of the English language usage corresponds to what I've learned and experienced on a daily basis. Anyway, I'm not a native English speaker, so I'm just conveying my experience here.

You're also correct in stating that every noun in Italian, French and Spanish are gendered and so are their relative articles which are also mandatory.

Interesting enough, the genders are often inverted among differences romance languages. What is masculine in Italian may well be feminin in Spanish or French and likewise.

Unfortunately, I've witnessed few occasions when politicians tried to propose gender changes of few "sensitive words" according to the mood of the time. The result sounded so awkward and occasionally hilarious that was quickly forgotten and buried into oblivion.

Picotin Unfortunately, I've witnessed few occasions when politicians tried to propose gender changes of few "sensitive words" according to the mood of the time. The result sounded so awkward and occasionally hilarious that was quickly forgotten and buried into oblivion.

😄 Here in Denmark, back in the early 1980's, I believe, there was an attempt from the political left to create a neutral form meaning both "he" and "she". In Danish "he" is "han", and "she" is "hun". The proposed word was "høn" (which has a vowel sound not normally found in English). That created a lot of comic relief for a couple of months, and most probably today nobody even remembers it.

QuasiUnaFantasia Here in Denmark, back in the early 1980's, I believe, there was an attempt from the political left to create a neutral form meaning both "he" and "she".

We could use one of those in English. We only have "it" ... not to be used for people, only for inanimate objects for which gender does not exist in English.

I think there have been attempts to do so, but none has gained traction.

MacMacMac Exactly. They or them are plural terms. More than one. You can’t say “Where is Tim? They went to the store?’ I would ask, “who else accompanied Tim?”

CyberGene There are also legal complications with the gender notion and the choice. For example here in Bulgaria the retirement age for women is lower than for men.

So you are still discriminating against women ending their career prematurely increasing the pay gap?

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Well, I’m also wondering why that is. I’ll have to research it. But from a statistical point of view women live longer than men (here and I guess everywhere) and it’s odd why they would retire earlier. Not sure who decided it and why.

Deleted So you are still discriminating against women ending their career prematurely increasing the pay gap?

When you say "you" are discriminating, are you implying that CG is somehow responsible for the law in Bulgaria?
I'm pretty sure that's not the case.
Rather "they" are responsible ... (whoever "they" are). 🙂